If you dont believe in god, what do you believe in?

I come from a Muslim family and i was brought up to believe in Islam. I’ve had doubts for the last couple of years and finally I’ve come to the conclusion that God doesn’t exist. You see this is where everything goes hard.

I had years of security believing that if I am good i’ll go to heaven, and now I feel so alone. I have no one with whom I can share my views and the guilt of rejecting my religion is bringing me down. I fear it is only a matter of time before i commit suicide. It’s just if you don’t believe in God, what do you believe in? thanks in advance to anyone who replies.

Posted: November 12th 2010


You are between a rock and a hard place at present. In fact, once hitting rock bottom, the only way is up.

What you believe in at present is that you will get out of this torturous situation while remaining atheist. With your intelligence and courage, you will feel better eventually. But as others said, the most important aspect is to put to end the sense of being cut off. Please keep asking questions here, click on the atheist nexus forum on the right, follow the other suggestions made by my fellow answerers, especially seeking a secular professional counselor for your depression. Depression can be alleviated.

When you feel bad, do something that will connect you to others, perhaps even volunteer at a school, hospital, etc. Guilt is a terrible self-esteem crusher. When you see that you are helping others to feel better, you will see that you are a good person, even though you are no longer a practicing Muslim. You have my admiration, and you will find that you will have the admiration of many others.

Most of all, be gentle with yourself. You will be learning how to live in a new way. That is never easy, but often turns out to be way better than it was before.

Posted: November 18th 2010

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flagellant www

Firstly, congratulations on seeing through Islam and for having the courage to contact us.

Secondly, having come to the entirely sensible conclusion that God doesn’t exist, you should take comfort from some of the things that motivate atheists: the total lack of evidence for gods, the absurdity of the carrot (heaven)/stick (hell) argument, and the sheer nastiness of Islam for its ‘Death to apostates’ attitude. But don’t forget Islam’s sexism and cruelty, either. You should have no guilt about rejecting your religion any more than you should if you were to stop supporting a football team, or even turn your back on sport altogether, especially one as regressive as Islam. .

You say that you feel lonely and I understand this because, many years ago, I decided to live alone. It was strange at first; then I really began to appreciate my independence and freedom. I hope that you will do so too. One of the principal attractions of religion is its social aspect, something that gives you a sense of belonging. But you belong to a wider circle now: human society. There are so many other ways to find companionship apart from joining with people who have been brain-washed. Once you get over the strangeness of having to rely entirely on your own resources, you should be able to enjoy your life once more. It is the only one you will get; don’t waste it.

I believe in the unquenchable human spirit that is buttressed by real knowledge and understanding, rather than by ancient, twisted writings of dubious provenance and value. But, given the pernicious nature of Islam, you must look to your safety. Be very careful who you confide in.

There are organisations you could contact. Among them is Apostates of Islam Here is a quote from their website

We were taught never to question the truth of Islam and to believe in Allah and his messenger with blind faith. We were told that Allah would forgive all sins but the sin of disbelief (Quran 4:48 and 4:116). But we committed the ultimate sin of thinking and questioned the belief that was imposed on us and we came to realize that far from being a religion of truth, Islam is a hoax, it is hallucination of a sick mind and nothing but lies and deceits.
And remember that these judgements are by ex-Muslims, and not by religiosi from rival faiths, nor by dyed-in-the-wool atheists.

In the UK there is The Council of Ex-Muslims of Britain There are also national support centres in many countries. I will try to add more links in the next few days.

Posted: November 14th 2010

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Blaise www

Your feelings are understandable. You’ve made a major shift in your worldview, and nothing in your life up to now has prepared you for the ideas and feelings you are experiencing. I don’t know if anyone here is qualified to help you deal with your depression, and I would suggest that you find a professional counselor to help you deal with it.

Atheists don’t all believe in the same things, but they all believe in something! It is up to each person to find those things through careful introspection. It seems as though the internal conflict you feel is the result of having lost your faith, but not yet really thought about the reasons why. If you examine those closely, you’ll likely find all the answers you are looking for.

For example, many new deconverts find themselves in the in-between state of no longer believing in an afterlife, while still believing that only the possibility of an afterlife gives life meaning. Carefully examined, though, it soon becomes obvious that the exact opposite is true: that planning one’s whole life around that afterlife was actually diminishing their real life to the point of valulessness, and that only years of brainwashing with religious dogma could have convinced them otherwise. If this is the only life we have, it becomes infinitely more important, and it’s our job to find meaning and satisfaction in it, lest it be wasted.

I hope you’ll keep pursuing answers in places like this site, and I hope you find them soon. Please do find yourself a secular counselor to help you deal with your depression, and whatever you do, remember that you are NOT alone. Nearly 20% of the world’s population is non-theist, and the vast majority of them are happy, well-adjusted, and productive. Your family or social environment may make your atheism difficult right now, but if you keep searching and thinking, you will eventually come to terms with it, and find others who share your views, and with whom you can be yourself.

Posted: November 14th 2010

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