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Can atheists practice faithfulness in relationship

Cheating has turned into a big issue in relationships and marriage. I understand that many religious people do cheat. But in all religions, cheating is seen as a sin. Atheists are free of this dilemma. So is it like cheating is much easier for them?

Posted: August 13th 2011

George Locke

If you and your partner agree to be monogamous, then any breach of that monogamy is cheating. It’s immoral because you have to break a promise to do it (not to mention the needless pain of betrayal). Being an atheist doesn’t make you dishonest, nor does it make you immune from the consequences of breaking your husband’s heart.

On the other hand, if you’re free of religious prohibitions, you and your hubby could agree to have a relationship that wasn’t strictly monogamous. In this case, you might have sex with another man without it being cheating.

The word “sin” presumes a supernatural judge that doesn’t exist. In the mind of a religious believer, “sin” and “immorality” are closely linked (if not identical), but atheists prefer to distinguish religious dogma from ethics. Cheating may not be a “sin” for us, but it’s certainly an immoral act.

Posted: August 15th 2011

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Dave Hitt www

Atheists don’t have the fall back of “we are all sinners” and “god will forgive me.” Without those cop-outs we are entirely responsible for our own actions – which is why we are more moral than theists. We worry about our relationships with real people, not mythical creatures, so our relationships tend to be stronger than those of believers.

Posted: August 15th 2011

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Eric_PK

Yes, cheating is easier, but frankly, it’s hard to find time to cheat, what with all the raping and pillaging that I’m doing.

Christianity teaches that a) we are all weak and are destined to sin and b) if we repent and ask for forgiveness, our sins are forgiven.

That doesn’t seem like a prohibition against cheating, it seems like an inducement to it.

Whereas the atheist doesn’t have the option for forgiveness; if I cheated I would have to live with myself, and that’s not worth it.

The two divorces that I’ve been closest two both involved one spouse cheating on the other, and both of the cheaters were not only very religious but cheated with people from their congregation. I don’t have many nonreligious friends who have divorced, but from what I know they were the more amiable variety.

Posted: August 15th 2011

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Steve Zara www

Surely a relationship is about you and your partner, and how you negotiate and manage what happens between you. If you only refrain from hurting your partner because of the fear of sin, then you aren’t a very healthy relationship.

Posted: August 15th 2011

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Mike the Infidel www

Divorce rates for atheists are among the lowest in America. So yeah, I imagine we can be pretty faithful.

Atheists recognize that the only people who can forgive us are the people who we wrong, so no, it’s not easier for us to hurt other people. We can’t convince ourselves that we’re forgiven by an uninvolved supernatural third party.

Posted: August 15th 2011

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brian thomson www

Since I’ve never been married, my expertise on this subject is naturally very limited, but the way it looks to me from the “outside” goes something like this: if the “sin” tag on adultery is all that’s stopping someone from cheating, the relationship is already doomed. You don’t love someone and stay faithful because you’re told to, do you?

I mean – look at the “Ten Commandments” and other Biblical laws: they weren’t exactly “alien” commands to the Israelites of the time. Most of them were common sense laws, imposed by Moses & the other leaders with the aim of keeping order in the tribe, and the remainder were affirmations of religious authority, as far as I can tell.

Adultery is one of those commandments, and there were common sense reasons for avoiding it. It was damaging to tribal morale and cohesion. Moses was a man, after all: he didn’t want it happening to him either. None of this logic requires any external absolute authority, or any notion of “sin”: it was a bad idea, in their tribal context, and it’s not particularly strange that their leaders made rules about it.

Posted: August 15th 2011

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Philip www

No it most certainly is not!

Why do you assume that being an atheist has anything to do with being exempt from the consequences of cheating on someone?

I would NEVER cheat on my girlfriend, it would be an abuse of the trust she has for me and if, hypothetically speaking, I did go and cheat on her it would cause an extreme amount of misery and emotional pain- it’s got absolutely nothing to do with my lack of religion and everything to do with the consequences of my actions.

Atheists cheat, religious people cheat – they do it for all manner of reasons, it is more to do with the type of person they are than anything else.

Posted: August 15th 2011

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