How do you rationalize happiness?

I don’t even care about looking good. What’s the point? I don’t give a fuck about impressing anyone. I don’t even care to be happy. For some reason the sheer irony disgusts me. We all know everything is pointless, so why avoid sadness and melancholy? Why strive for any certain emotion if they are all equally trivial? It is my view that all people are manifestations of society, especially HUMAN society (meaning the collectivism of what humans are and have done). The delusion of human society is that every single human who has ever lived is taught to distract him/herself from his/her impending decent into nothingness by engaging in meaningless, menial activities. Everything anyone has ever done is meaningless and if you can’t see that you are blind. Name one thing you consider poignant and purposeful and I’ll find a way to negate it’s meaning. This happiness bullshit is just that, BULLSHIT. You’re going to die and your life is not any more valuable or meaningful because you were happy. Individuality doesn’t matter either. Nothing lasts, there is no good or bad because the universe has no will, and everything that has ever been and will be is just a meaningless event woven into the fabric of space and time. If you have any scientific proof to suggest otherwise, I’d be glad to hear it. By the way I’m almost 19 years old and have felt this way since I was 7 or 8. Medication doesn’t make me “happy” or motivated.

Posted: May 22nd 2012

George Locke

Emotions aren’t rational. I want to be happy, and I don’t need a reason. There probably is no reason. So what?

Love, art, and altruism mean a lot to me. I could make a case for why these things have real value, but such an argument wouldn’t do you any good. You’re trying too hard to justify everything rationally, and any attempt to argue you out of that position will only be fighting fire with fire. I think what you need is counseling.

Feelings don’t make sense. Life is absurd. Deal with it. Don’t expect it to be easy.

Posted: June 18th 2012

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Dave Hitt www

Name one thing you consider poignant and purposeful and I’ll find a way to negate it’s meaning.

You’re operating under several mistaken assumptions. I’ll only address two.

One is that meaning is universal. Things that are meaningful to me are not necessarily meaningful to you, or the guy walking down the street over there, or to anyone else.

The second is the assumption that your opinions are important enough that we’re obligated to justify ourselves to someone as miserable as you. I’ll pass, thanks. It’s a fine day out, and I’m going to walk the dog and enjoy a cigar. It won’t mean anything, but then, it doesn’t have to.

Posted: June 7th 2012

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donsevers www

I understand your position. I didn’t find this essay until I was 48. I think you’ll find it interesting:


Posted: June 6th 2012

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Galen Rose www

First off, let me say that I’m very sorry you feel that way. I’m no psychologist, but this sounds like depression to me, and perhaps you just haven’t found the right medication. If you’re not seeing a mental health professional yet, then please do; your feelings are not normal, and you can be helped to feel more positive about life and living.

The meaning in life is in the details. Your pet dog has never once troubled himself about the meaning of life, but when he sees you come in the front door, he runs to you jumping up and down and barking, his tail going a hundred miles an hour, just enveloped in the sheer joy of seeing you again. That is how life should be lived. Forget the nihilistic overview and lose yourself in the nuances and life can be beautiful.

It’s a great mistake to get hung up on meaning. Imagine you’re doing something fun, like spending an afternoon playing volleyball with your friends on the beach. Let’s say your team gets trounced game after game. Don’t you think you’d be laughing through it all? Is there any chance you would consider that afternoon wasted just because your team lost? Find out what you enjoy doing and do it.

Life is to be enjoyed, and perhaps, in the end, that is its only meaning. If you aren’t enjoying it, then you’re doing something wrong. Seek professional help, if you haven’t already.

Posted: June 6th 2012

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